February 13, 2008

why I hated valentines day and why I love my Papa...

First of all, who doesnt hate Valentine's Day? I mean, I'm married and I find it mildly annoying to be forced by hallmark to spend a day devoted to outward signs of affection....
However, I have reconsidered "outward signs of affection" for this post...


I remember it was the year that Titanic came out because I wanted the soundtrack soooo bad ( don't judge, you KNOW "my heart will go on" was good for like two days...). And I remember clearly being SO excited when Papa surprised me with the CD and some cherry sours for Valentine's Day that year. I can practically taste the Cherry Sours right now.
Anyway, its pretty much a known fact that Papa spoils the girls in his family. In fact, he spoils just about everyone he knows...but, we definitely get the most spoiling. ;-) And Valentine's Day was no exception...

Anyway, yesterday I opened my mail box to find a tiny box with a note written in pencil on a small piece of brown parchment paper attached:

"Sweetie,
Happy Valentine's Day
Love,
Papa

and a very pretty pair of earrings...

But, it was the thought and the note that really got me...It made me miss my Papa...and it made me think about all the Valentine's Days that he gave me little "just because" presents that made me smile and ultimately gave me hope in a holiday for people in relationships...which, up until last year, was never me. In some ways even though I'm now married and have someone to "share this romantic day with"...I look back very fondly to a time when there was no thought of fanfare or big plans or a sense of responsiblity to give your significant other roses or something...but instead I got these special little presents from my father who didnt HAVE to buy into the whole holiday, but instead decided to continue his common theme of spoiling his girls...

So, I think I've changed my mind about Valentine's Day...I'm using it to spoil all the other people that I think deserve some sign of my appreciate and love.... Afterall, EVERY DAY should be about spoiling Brett.... so I think Papa's got it right-he's spoiling ALL the important girls in his life....and I think I'll try to do the same! :-)

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

I don't like it either. Why should you only show affection to someone just on day out of every year?


Christa

Anna said...

I love Papa too! Only his girls can truly understand how special he can make us feel. I always forget the day, but he never lets us down. And I mean that in all ways!

Judy said...

You're not alone in being touched by your Papa's gentle love. It was Valentine's Day 35 years ago. I was a freshman in college in a prayer group that met daily. That day your papa made tiny foil vases and delivered a "vase" of tiny pink sweetheart roses to me and other sisters in our prayer group. Seems they were from a rose bush near where he lived. I can't tell you how much that little gesture meant (and still means!) to me. Every time I see pink sweetheart roses, I remember how I was blessed by that gift! Judy.

donnave said...

I love being one of the "girls" that your papa spoils. Isn't he wonderful? Love, Aunt Donnave